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The Cat’s in the Cradle and the Silver Spoon: Slow Down, Parents

December 5, 2016

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Andrea Petersen recently wrote a Wall Street Journal article, “A Nanny Who’s Always On Vacation.”  Far from being on vacation, these specialized nannies make their livings by accompanying families on their vacations, to attend to the children while traveling and to give the parents their “adult time” sans kids. I’m not sure what I think […]

Stop the Pussification of America

November 14, 2016

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Parents:  let your kids find their own way in childhood. Let them be disappointed.  Make them strong and confident by letting them do things, not by telling them they are special snowflakes.  The real threat to America is not Trump; it’s the past several decades of helicopter parenting that turns out 20-year-old spoiled, fearful children. […]

Delicious Irony of the Flight of the Affluenza Boy

January 4, 2016

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In a deliciously ironic twist, Affluenza Boy’s maneuvering to avoid justice has landed him in a “sanctuary” that is far worse and may even last longer than any punishment he would have received in the US. Two years ago, we expressed our outrage at the Ethan Couch case. You may remember it; a spoiled and […]

“Free-Range Kid” Legislation: Pretty Sad That It Needed a Law

December 14, 2015

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A little bit of common sense may be returning to our schools. On 10 December, President Obama signed the Every Student Succeeds Act, which overhauls the disastrous “No Child Left Behind” law. Love it or not, the idea is to get the Federal Government mostly out of the education business and return control of curricula […]

Why Child Care May Never Be Well Compensated

November 9, 2015

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It’s because of the limited availability of parental dollars to pay for the service. Marketwatch published an interesting chart this week, showing how those who care for our nation’s children are compensated at a lower rate than bellhops, car cleaners, and even parking lot attendants. Why is this? Child-care workers are entrusted with our nation’s […]

Joan Larsen: Finding Help to Leap the Chasm Between High School and Life

June 3, 2015

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By Joan Larsen As we watch our own children and grandchildren heading into those final years in high school, more often than not we see kids who are ‘betwixt and between’, still too young and unsure of which of the many roads that spread out ahead of them to lay claim to.  Remembering back to our […]

Baltimore Riots: “Mom of the Year” Wouldn’t Be, Under Other Circumstances

May 4, 2015

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It is not lost on me that under other circumstances, the famous Baltimore mom might be in jail for child abuse.   By now you have seen the headlines praising Maryland mom Toya Graham for her smackdown of her masked 16-year-old son who was among the rioters in Baltimore, throwing rocks at the police. “Baltimore […]

Another Reason to Oppose Fertility Treatments

August 4, 2014

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What if you could have several children, pick out your favorite, and throw the others away?  Now you can! In general, Lila is not a fan of fertility treatments. First of all, there is the population issue:  extinction from lack of people is pretty unlikely; on the other hand, a population collapse may very well […]

Hey South Carolina: I Was a 7-Year-Old Latchkey Kid

July 21, 2014

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Thank God it was the 1970s, so my Dad didn’t end up in jail, and I didn’t end up in foster care.   In the news we hear of a South Carolina mother who was jailed and lost custody of her 9-year-old daughter for allowing her to play unsupervised at a local park (with a […]

More Evidence that Many “ADHD Sufferers” are Just Unmindful

May 16, 2014

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Yep, I said it. I have always strongly suspected that ADHD is a vastly over-diagnosed disorder thanks to the demands of harried parents, exasperated teachers, and a medical business culture that incentivizes prescriptions and treatments. Don’t get me wrong. I am certain that there is a very small minority out there who actually have empirically […]

The Ethan Couch Case Revisited: More Outrage, But One Fierce Victim

April 21, 2014

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Remember Ethan Couch, the Affluenza Boy? The spoiled rich kid who slaughtered four and injured nine (some permanently) while drunk and speeding on a dark residential road? Whose parents had never disciplined him for anything, ever, no matter how serious? Whose lawyers argued… successfully… that young Mr. Couch couldn’t be held responsible for this horrific […]

Joan Larsen’s Life Stories: Leaping the Chasm Between High School and Life

February 12, 2014

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 by Joan Larsen Looking back, it probably was a fairly smooth path before our kids became teenagers . . . though, in retrospect, we have to admit that we all have had “our moments” back then.  Somehow, those years seem like child’s play to us now.  In our world today, it is the teen years […]

Let Kids Be Kids: Go Play Outside!

January 20, 2014

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The most important skills that children everywhere must learn in order to live happy, productive, moral lives are skills that cannot be taught in school. Such skills cannot be taught at all. They are learned and practised by children in play. – Peter Gray Okay, raise your hand if you grew up in the 1950s, […]

Child Discipline: NOT One-Size-Fits-All

November 15, 2013

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Time for Ivory Tower academicians to butt out With every passing year, changes in the way Americans parent, and the way US kids grow up, only makes me even MORE glad that I never had children.  The latest: child discipline is back in the news, and frankly, I don’t know what’s left for parents to […]

The Ethics of Postmortem Parenthood

October 1, 2013

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As Mikaela Conley reports in Medpage Today:  in Israel, a 17-year-old traffic accident victim’s family obtained a court order to remove and freeze her eggs before taking her off life support, but judges have declined the family’s petition to have the eggs fertilized with donated sperm until the family can prove that their deceased daughter […]

On Fools, Reality and Failure to Protect One’s Children

June 17, 2013

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Bad “science” and stupid decisions are bad for kids’ health Last week, we talked about the folly of relying too much on prayer instead of science to save children from horrible, but often curable, diseases.  The result: too many children die unnecessarily, as if they were trapped somewhere in the 19th century. But there is […]

On Faith, Reality, and Failure to Protect One’s Children

June 13, 2013

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Relying on God to fulfill your parental responsibilities is arrogant, childish… and fatal As USA Today reports, yet another family has lost a child to illness as a result of relying on prayer over medicine.  This was the second such loss for this family.  One would think, after Herbert and Catherine Schaible lost their two-year-old […]

Charlotte, NC: Abusing a Program for Young First Offenders?

June 3, 2013

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Rad Berky at WCNC reports that a Charlotte, NC mom called police to report the theft of Pop-Tarts from her house.  It turns out that she fingered her own 13-year-old son as the culprit. This is bad enough by itself, but the police actually arrested the kid and charged him with misdemeanor larceny.  What the….? […]

Paul Tudor Jones’ Comment: Moms Don’t Have the Focus for Macro Trading Career

May 24, 2013

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Outrageous!  But Is He Right? Here we go again.  At a symposium on large-scale trading and investment  at the University of Virginia last month,  the question came:  why was the panel composed solely of rich, white, middle-aged men?  Billionaire Paul Tudor Jones answered that in his experience, emotional distractions – such as divorce – would […]

Drew Barrymore – Putting Parenthood First

April 12, 2013

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Drew Barrymore isn’t the first or last new mother to conclude that women “can’t have it all.”  But if a high-powered, successful woman married to a high-powered, successful husband can’t “have it all,” can anyone? Drew Barrymore is a riches-to-rags-to-riches Hollywood story all her own.  The granddaughter of the famous John Barrymore, she had a […]

ADHD: Medical Problem, or Parenting Problem?

April 4, 2013

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I am more convinced than ever that ADHD is over-diagnosed for the convenience of adults. The headlines are not helping my bad attitude toward ADHD diagnoses.  On Monday, CBS News published a story titled “Report: 11 Percent of School-Aged Kids Diagnosed With ADHD.”   On the exact same day,  Medpage Today carried the headline, “Parent Training […]

DOMA Is Teetering. Let It Fall!

March 29, 2013

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The Supreme Court is hearing arguments this week on the 1996 Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA), and I’m hoping that the law will be struck down.  It’s sort of hard to support something that denies basic Federal allowances and benefits to folks like Staff Sergeant Tracy Dice Johnson, whose spouse was killed in Afghanistan.  Not […]

The Dream Merchant

March 26, 2013

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Lauriate Roly makes a discovery about his mother’s imagination, years later. By Lauriate Roly When I was a child, my mother owned a “Dream Book” which she got after sending in a great number of box tops from RINSO. She learned about RINSO’s special Dream Book offer, listening every day to “Big Sister”, her favorite […]

Falling Not Far From the Tree

March 12, 2013

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By Lauriate Roly I was taught that I would be a better person if I could restrain myself accordingly. So I tried, from a very young age. Admittedly, there were times I recall, but only too well, being corrected, quite severely along the way;  but eventually it became almost second nature, though never completely easy […]

How Can We Accommodate Transgender Children?

March 8, 2013

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Can we accommodate transgender children without freaking out about the whole thing? We have previously explored what “transgender” means, and how young is too young to know that one is transgendered.  I confess I had doubts about that last, and I still think parents and educators need to listen carefully to a child and not […]

Discoveries by an Unintentional Sanctimommy

February 5, 2013

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Janine Kovac, writing for Role/Reboot, got herself into a world of hurt last week with her post, “Maybe You Are Ready for Kids, You’re Just Not Paying Attention.”  It was an open letter to her friend, “Doris,” who was apparently a thirty-something, self-absorbed career woman agonizing over whether she would ever be ready to have […]

DOMA, Gay Marriage, and Baby-Mamas

January 3, 2013

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We are culturally all over the map when it comes to marriage and child-rearing.  On the one hand, gays have been fighting for the rights to be married and raise families, while the promoters of DOMA have been fighting to preserve a Federal definition of marriage as “one man, one woman.”  Meanwhile, the whole institution […]

Individuality vs. Illness: Are We “Diagnosing” Ourselves Into a Bland Monoculture?

December 7, 2012

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This week we looked at a few of the controversial changes coming up in the fifth edition of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders.  I’d like to close out the week by asking the general question:  just what is a disorder?  On the great, multi-dimensional continuum of infinite human variation, just where does […]

It Can Seem Funny… But It Isn’t

December 6, 2012

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By Lauriate Roly Only in recent years have I learned about the term Tourette’s Syndrome. From early childhood until she reached adulthood, my dear sister would make funny faces, scrunch up her nose and move her lips in convulsive looking gyrations that sometimes made others, especially her schoolmates, think she was making faces at them. […]

So Are Tantrums a Disorder Now?

December 3, 2012

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The Associated Press reports that the board of trustees for the American Psychiatric Association has just concluded a meeting in Washington DC, where it voted on revisions to its Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders.   This week, we’ll look at several of the changes coming up in the fifth edition. Up for today:  the […]

The Cat’s in the Cradle and the Silver Spoon: Slow Down, Parents

November 19, 2012

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Andrea Petersen recently wrote a Wall Street Journal article, “A Nanny Who’s Always On Vacation.”  Far from being on vacation, these specialized nannies make their livings by accompanying families on their vacations, to attend to the children while traveling and to give the parents their “adult time” sans kids. I’m not sure what I think […]