By Eileen Rockefeller
So often, in the ups and downs of life, it seems to be our friends that are our “glue”, the people who hold us together, sharing our joys and our sorrows. We are grateful. Today I am absolutely delighted to introduce you to a woman who is all that to me, and more – Eileen Rockefeller, our guest writer this week. Eileen is that rare writer-poet who is so willing to look deep within herself, share her joys and uncertainties with her reading audience, making us feel “at one” with her. . . letting us know we are not alone in thoughts we may not normally share. Ideas seem to spring from her heart, stories she has long held close are often shared. She has always been able to allow me to open my heart fully in return. A rare gift.
In a summer tale recently told, Eileen says: At the end of a long day, there’s nothing better than to pick up a paddle and drift on water. The moment we pushed off the shore we felt the stresses of the day drown in our wake.
The imagery is one we all understand. Today, back on the shore of life, we have with us someone I deem very special, Eileen Rockefeller.
A friend gave me the following quote by Reverend Safire Rose on letting go. Lately, I have been reading it almost daily. It reminds me to let go of all that I can’t control, which is almost everything, and live in the present. Bit-by-bit I am loosening my grip, and finding the gift of freedom that results. I share it as a gift to you:
“She let go. Without a thought or a word, she let go. She let go of the fear. She let go of the judgments. She let go of the confluence of opinions swarming around her head. She let go of the committee of indecision within her. She let go of all the “right” reasons. Wholly and completely, without hesitation or worry, she just let go. She didn’t ask anyone for advice. She didn’t read a book on how to let go. She didn’t search the scriptures. She just let go.
She let go of all the memories that held her back. She let go of all the anxiety that kept her from moving forward. She let go of the planning and all of the calculations about how to do it just right. She didn’t promise to let go. She didn’t journal about it. She didn’t write the projected date in her Day-Timer. She made no public announcement and put no ad in the paper. She didn’t check the weather report or read her daily horoscope. She just let go.
She didn’t analyze whether she should let go. She didn’t call her friends to discuss the matter. She didn’t do a five-step Spiritual Mind Treatment. She didn’t call the prayer line. She didn’t utter one word. She just let go.
No one was around when it happened. There was no applause or congratulations. No one thanked her or praised her. No one noticed a thing. Like a leaf falling from a tree, she just let go. There was no effort. There was no struggle. It wasn’t good and it wasn’t bad. It was what it was, and it is just that. In the space of letting go, she let it all be. A small smile came over her face. A light breeze blew through her. And the sun and the moon shone forevermore..?”
Eileen Rockefeller is the youngest daughter of David and Peggy Rockefeller, and a great-granddaughter of John D. Rockefeller. A pioneer in catalyzing broad acceptance of mind/body interactions and the importance of social and emotional skills for success in life, Eileen was a co-founder of CASEL (Collaborative for Academic, Social and Emotional Learning) along with Daniel Goleman and 6 others in 1994. She is also the co-chair of her family’s generational association, and founding chair of Rockefeller Philanthropy Advisors and the Growald Family Fund. She has two grown sons and lives on an organic farm in Vermont with her husband. Her book, Being a Rockefeller, Becoming Myself, was published in 2014.